🌿 A Letter to the Parents Who Don’t Share Everything Online

And a gentle reminder that you’re not alone.

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Why Some Autism & ADHD Parents Share Everything Online — and Why I Don’t

There are mums on TikTok and Instagram raising autistic and ADHD children who share their lives with incredible bravery. They show the therapy days, meltdowns, sensory overloads, and victories that come with parenting neurodivergent kids.

I follow some of them because on the hard days, their honesty reminds me:

“You’re not alone. Someone else understands this life.”

But here’s something I’ve learned:
Every parent raises their neurodivergent child differently.
And every parent shares their story differently, too.

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I’m Not a Video-Sharing Mum — And That’s Okay

This isn’t about judgement. If anything, I’m in awe of the mums who can be so open.

I’m simply wired differently:

• I don’t know how to edit videos

• I’m protective of my kids’ privacy

• I’m not comfortable putting their struggles online

• I prefer writing over filming

• And I share best when I’m not holding a camera in someone’s face

My blog has always been my quieter way of being part of the community — and lately, even that’s taken a pause. Not because life is easy (it’s not), but because it’s been busy and heavy in ways I’ve needed time to process.

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The Emotional Side of Parenting Neurodivergent Children

This past week alone has been overwhelming.

Miss 7 had testing done to assess for an intellectual disability — and it came back positive. I didn’t expect it. And even though it doesn’t change who she is, the words still hit differently when they become official.

At the same time, she’s been accepted into a special school — a huge, positive step for her.

But Miss Almost 6 still doesn’t have a school for next year, and she won’t be returning to her current one. So I’m juggling two children with different needs, different pathways, and facing the grief of realising:

Our first years of school didn’t look like the ones I dreamed of.

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The Education System Isn’t Built for Kids Like Mine

And that’s one of the hardest truths I’ve had to sit with this year.

Our girls didn’t struggle because they’re “too much.”
They struggled because the system isn’t designed to support autistic and neurodivergent children the way they deserve.

So yes — this year has felt like:

• A battle

• A juggling act

• A grief process

• And a constant emotional marathon

And when you’re living all that, stopping to document it online just doesn’t feel realistic, safe, or right for everyone.

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If You’re a Quiet Parent Too — This Is For You

If you’re a mum or dad raising autistic or ADHD kids and you don’t share everything online, I want you to hear this:

You’re not less brave.

You’re not less involved.

You’re not less of an advocate.

Some of us share with videos.
Some with blogs.
Some with late-night scrolling and quiet tears.
Some with therapy appointments and endless emails.
Some with whispered conversations in the car after drop-off.

Every version counts.

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Privacy Is Also Advocacy

You don’t owe the internet your children’s hardest moments.
You don’t need a platform to be a good parent.

Keeping things private doesn’t mean you’re hiding.
It means you’re protecting.
It means you’re choosing what’s right for your family.

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To Every Parent Walking This Journey Quietly… I See You

You’re doing the early mornings, the appointments, the meltdowns, the forms, the homework battles, the sensory storms, the transitions, the grief, and the love.

Even if the world never sees a second of it — you are doing an incredible job.

We don’t need to film everything to prove we’re trying.

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You’re Enough. More Than Enough.

To every parent raising neurodivergent kids in your own way:

I see you.
I’m with you.
And you’re doing amazingly. 💛